The dissatisfaction with modern sexuality

The key problem with modern sexuality is the difference between the traditional family structure and the impulsive sexual movement.

Freud insists that your sexual orientation comes inherently from your development in from a young age. The oedipus complex insinuates that you as a young child are attracted to your mother and your sexuality is built on the foundation of relation between you and your mother. If your mother is an aggressive, distant and abusive parent you are likely to fall for women who are also willing to engage in that sort of relation. On the contrary, if your mother is a loving, caring and intimate mother you are more likely to fall for a women who shares a similar relationship with you.

Now the traditional family is based on values based on intimacy and care, that of which leads to an incentive to enter a relationship which is intimate, caring and loving. Your relationship with your mother in a modern family is of care and love, not of distance, individuality or impulse. Therefore your sexuality is based on principles of care, love and compassion. This is the case for most people in the modern age, especially since societies ideals of family are based on these principles of love and care.

However, the modern liberal idea of sexuality has become a completely impulsive, sexual and distant direction. For example, the common idea of one night stands, non-commitment relationships, solely sexual interactions with no intimacy or care. This has led to the delineation between ones sexuality and the societal direction for sexuality.

Societies idea of sexuality indicates that sex should be free for all, it should take a solely impulse direction. Whereas ones basis of sexuality based on freudian theory is based on the relationship one has with ones mother, which in modern society is one of intimacy and care.

Therefore there is a contradiction between ones real sexuality and the sexuality that is advertised by society. Thus leading a massive dissatisfaction with sexuality in the modern man.

The societal currents which are carried by consensus which is heavily influenced by media, are very strong for an individual. They feel they must carry through societies wishes as they are the wishes of the majority. Since humans are herd animals who’s direction is indicated by the majority, this force is very strong.

But also is strong the sexual nature of an individual which is produced from their upbringing using the freudian model of the oedipus complex. Which through societies idea of family are of care, love and intimacy.

Thus there is a clear clash between ones own sexuality which is constructed through societies construction of a loving mother-son relationship and the societal direction of sexuality being impulsive and primal.

Its a clear contradiction between the product of one societal structure (that of family care and love which leads to a sexual orientation of intimacy, care and love) and the societal idea of sexuality being free, impulsive and a simple exercise of pleasure.

Now, if the societal view of family were to be of impulse, sexual drive, pleasure, distance etc. Then the societal view of sexuality would coincide with the family view and therefore there would be harmony and less dissatisfaction.

However, this would lead to a loss of the benefits and satisfactions of intimacy, meaningful relationships and love.

Therefore, in order to reach the ultimate richness in sexuality is to follow the course of having loving, caring and intimate family relations and having a societal idea of sexuality based on intimacy, bond and love.

The reasons for this deformity in coherence between societal directions is ignorance of Freudian theory and mass communication directed by simple, naturally restrained yet artificially unrestrained pleasures. Which I cannot be asked to explain because its 5:30 in the morning.

The way to combat this is to follow you own sexual construction based on intimacy, care and love (if it is based on this due to your family orientation) despite the societal movement of free impulse sexuality. Be secure in your stance and you will attract a women who is more drawn to you for your security and courage over your views than the societal direction. It will lead to a richer sexual life, which means a richer life. Peace.